This webpage provides a list of resources to help you learn more about preventing child sexual exploitation.
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CHILD SEX TRAFFICKING
Girls Like Us: Fighting for a world where girls are not for sale, an activist finds her calling and heals herself by Rachel Lloyd. c2011. At the age of only 13 Lloyd was caught in the snare of commercial sexual exploitation. A local community church helped free her of her pimp and her past. Rachel Lloyd is now a highly educated woman who works with women in the sex industry. She founded GEMS: Girls Educational and Mentoring Services in New York City. Lloyd talks about her past and shares stories of girls she has helped. She also was a leading advocate of the Safe Harbor for Exploited Youth Act which made New York the first state to protect, not prosecute, sexually exploited children.
My Book of Life By Angel by Martine Leavitt. Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 2012. Angel is 16 and stuck in a life of prostitution. Lured there by a promise of love, she finds herself addicted to drugs and working the streets totally dependent on Call, her John. Her best friend is missing. Angel realizes that she is probably dead. This is a turning point for Angel as she begins to refuse the drugs and advocates for a new ‘recruit’ Melli who is only 11. This is a fictional tale of a runaway who struggles amidst the consequences from Call and her ‘customers’ to save herself and Melli.
Listening to Olivia: Violence, Poverty, and Prostitution by Jody Raphael. Published by Northeastern University Press. Story of a survivor of commercial sexual exploitation, how she was recruited/groomed, what “the life” was like, how she got out, how she is healing.
The Slave Across the Street: The True Story of How an American Teen Survived the World of Human Trafficking by Theresa L. Flores. c2010. Theresa tells her story how a typical 15 year old from an upper-middle class family became enslaved in the dangerous world of sex trafficking. How she actually lived two lives, one that she thought no one would believe. She never spoke of it, never received help from teachers who might have suspected. It is an amazing story of bravery and hope. There is a question & answer section with the author as well as chapters on how spirituality helped Theresa move on. Discussion could begin with the ending chapters about “How this be?”,” What Can You Do?” and “Slavery in any era”.
Taken. Movie, 2008. Estranged teenage daughter is abducted by a ruthless sadistic gang.
“The Commercial Sexual Exploitation of Children in the United States, Mexico, and Canada” by Estes/Weiner of the University of Pennsylvania. http://www.sp2.upenn.edu/restes/CSEC_Files/Exec_Sum_020220.pdf
www.guardchild.com Internet and social media safety-parental control for protecting children in this digital age.
www.isafe.org Incorporates classroom curriculum with dynamic community outreach to empower students, teachers, parents, law enforcement, and concerned adults to make the internet a safer place. One can subscribe for e-mail alerts for when the latest edition of I-Parent Times is available to download.
www.netsmartz.org Netsmartz Games and Safety Tips. 800-843-5678. This is a well-done site created by the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children along with the Internet Crimes Against Children (ICAC) Task Force, and others. NetSmartz is updated regularly online, and much can be downloaded. There are also good activities for kids, making learning fun, both online, and printable for education sessions in church.
www.missingkids.com National Center for Missing and Exploited Children. They publish the Netsmartz material about Internet safety for children and adults. Many free safety brochures available on this site.
Child Safety Made Simple: An Easy Guide to Teaching Children How to Stay Safe by John Bush. CreateSpace, 2011.
Cinderella Ate My Daughter: Dispatches from the Front Lines of the New Girlie-girl Culture by Peggy Orenstein. Harper Paperbacks, 2012. “Our choices will tell our girls how we see them, who we want them to be, our values, expectations, hopes, and dreams. Do we want them to be judged by the content of their character or the color of their lip gloss?” Orenstein discusses the pink explosion and Disney princess culture that our little girls grow up in. Could this lead them from wholeness to whoreness? Can the need to have a perfect body or lip gloss color lead to eating disorders, depression or risky sexual behavior? The author does not have all the answers but she does have questions and insights that will think and possibly take a new look at your 6 year old girl.
CyberSafe: Protecting and Empowering Kids in the Digital World of Texting, Gaming, and Social Media by Gwenn Schurgin O'Keeffe, MD. American Academy of Pediatrics, 2010.
How To Talk To Your Kids About Sex: Your Step-By-Step Guide To Talking To Your Kids About Sex by HowExpert Press, 2012. Kindle edition.
The Lolita Effect: The Media Sexualization of Young Girls and What We Can Do About It by M. Gigi Durham, Ph.D. Overlook Hardcover, 2008. This is a must read for parents, teachers and any adult who interacts with girls as babies or a young child, a teen,or a young adult. It speaks of the power the media has over any positive teachings about female sexuality and self- esteem, to devalue themselves and ultimately make them easy targets for sexual exploitation. Ms. Durham’s book peaks awareness and stimulates social transformation. It can provoke conversations about sexual ethics which should begin now. She cracks myths about female sexuality, and offers suggestions on how we can change these perceptions.
Off Limits: A Parents’ Guide to Keeping Kids Safe from Sexual Abuse by Sandy Wurtele and Feather Berkower. The SaferSociety Press, 2010.
Out of Harm’s Way: A Parents’ Guide to Protecting Young Children from Sexual Abuse by Sandy Wurtele. Parenting Press, 2010.
The Parent's Guide to Texting, Facebook, and Social Media: Understanding the Benefits and Dangers of Parenting in a Digital World by Shawn Marie Edgington. Brown Books Publishing Group, 2011.
Protecting the Gift: Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe (and Parents Sane) by Gavin de Becker. Dell Publishing, 2000. Safety skills for children outside the home, warning signs of sexual abuse, how to screen baby-sitters and choose schools, and strategies for keeping teenagers safe from violence.
Secure Daughters, Confident Sons: How Parents Guide Their Children into Authentic Masculinity and Femininity by Glenn T. Stanton. Multnomah Books, 2011.
The Serpents Among Us - How to Protect Your Children From Sexual Predators: A Police Investigator's Perspective by Patrick Crough. Millstone Justice, 2009.
Sex-Wise Parent: The Parent's Guide to Protecting Your Child, Strengthening Your Family, and Talking to Kids About Sex, Abuse, and Bullying by Janet Rosenzweig. Skyhorse Publishing, 2012.
So Sexy So Soon: The New Sexualized Childhood and What Parents Can Do to Protect Their Kids by Diane E, Levin and Jean Kilbourne. Ballantine Books, 2009. Our children are bombarded with sexy content on almost every TV channel, in books, magazines and in fashion, video games and movies (even Disney). They want to wear the provocative clothing of their favorite singing star. Girls emulate which leads to boys seeing them as objects of desire. Our children are getting in over their immature heads. Levine and Kilbourne offer a practical guide for parents who are upset over kid’s behavior. They write of age-appropriate strategies, sample dialogues as well as true stories of families dealing with these issues. Here is information, skills and confidence parents need to discuss sensitive topics openly and effectively to help their kids just be kids.
Talking Sex With Your Kids: Keeping Them Safe and You Sane - By Knowing What They're Really Thinking by Amber Madison. Adams Media, 2010.
www.talkingwithkids.org Provides suggestions for talking with kids about tough issues. There is a free guide for parents that can be down-loaded. It is 40 pages long; very readable and insightful. All of the issues kids face are interconnected, so this is a great resource!
www.preventchildabuse.org Prevent Child Abuse America,founded in 1972 in Chicago, works to ensure the healthy development of children nationwide. A major organizational focus is to advocate for the existence of a national policy framework and strategy for children and families while promoting evidence-based practices that prevent abuse and neglect from ever occurring.
www.faithtrustinstitute.org FaithTrust Institute is a national, multifaith, multicultural training and education organization with global reach working to end sexual and domestic violence.
PROBLEMS OF PORNOGRAPHY
Pornified: How Pornography Is Damaging Our Lives, Our Relationships, and Our Families by Pamela Paul. St. Martin’s Griffin, 2006.
Pornography and the Pulpit: Understanding the Sins of the Shepherd as a Means of Restoration by Richard Nevard. Publish America, Baltimore, 2006.
Getting Off: Pornography and the End of Masculinity by Robert Jensen. Southend Press, 2007.
SEXUAL ABUSE PREVENTION
Good Touch Bad Touch: Learning About Proper and Improper Touches by Teresa Connor and Holly Thrailkill. CreateSpace, 2010.
I Said No! A Kid-to-Kid Guide to Keeping Your Private Parts Private by Kimberly King and Sue Rama. Boulden Publishing, 2008.
It’s MY Body: A Book to Teach Young Children How to Resist Uncomfortable Touch by Lory Britain. Parenting Press, 1982. An older book but still very relevant today. A simple style of art and text helps children understand uncomfortable touch in a way that is clear but not scary.
No Trespassing-This is My Body! by Pattie Fitzgerald. Safely Ever After Media, 2011. Explains to children difficult issues about their bodies and personal safety using easy to understand dialogue between kids and parents and bright colorful expressive illustrations. Includes a parent’s guide in the back.
Sara Sue Learns to Yell & Tell/Samuel Learns to Yell & Tell: A Warning for Children Against Sexual Predators by Debi Pearl. NGJ Ministries, 2010. These books address the subject of children dealing with sexual predators in a straight forward way, but also in a way child can understand without being frightened. Told in a rhyme format the illustrations are delightful and will keep the child amused while learning how to make wise decisions when approached with sexual advances.
Toads May Talk by Heather Hill. CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform, 2012. This story is intended to educate and empower children from ages 9 years and up. The tale is of a friendship between two boys, Luke and Tobias is told in a gentle and amusing way. It is a cautionary tale for children to raise awareness and assist parents to talk with their children about child abuse. Parents may want to read the story first so they are ready for questions that may arise.
Deaf, Dumb, Blind, & Stupid: Michael Anderson’s Fight for Life by Tremayne Moore. Maynetre Manuscripts, LLC, 2012. This is a powerful story of Michael Anderson's fight for life. He is a young boy searching for love and his place in a cruel world, but Michael Anderson has been dealt a terrible hand. This book addresses many aspects of the abuse of a child and how the effects can dominate them as they grow. Child abuse is talked about from a Christian viewpoint through Michael’s confidant, but not his advocate, Brother Elliot Freeman. It is a startling picture into the life of a young person trapped in an abusive life where, to Michael, there is only one way out. “His cry for help would shake a congregation.” Contains reflections, group questions, and resources.
A Stolen Life: A Memoir by Jaycee Dugard. Simon & Schuster, 2012. Jaycee was a prisoner for 18 years. She was an object to be used and abused. She was not allowed to speak her own name. It is a startling true tale of her life away from family and friends with only her abuser for company. She had children, lived in boxes and tents, and was sexually abuse over and over. This is a story of survival, of determination not to forget her own identity. After your read this you will want to gather pinecones.
Trust: What took her family years to build, a stranger stole in an instant. Movie, 2010. Fourteen year old Annie meets her first boyfriend online. Groomed for months via chat and phone, Annie decides to meet him. This suburban family is torn apart and struggles to support their daughter as she comes to grips with the actuality of what has happened to her. 106 minutes in length. Stars: Clive Owen, Catherine Keener, Jason Clarke, Liana Liberato and Viola Davis.
Reviving Ophelia. Movie, 2010. Inspired by the bestselling book by Dr. Mary Pipher. This is a story of the struggle of raising teenage daughters. It is also the story of the struggle of the daughters to stay friends when one suspects the other of having an abusive boyfriend. The girls and the mothers discover that they need each other to get through this crisis. 92 minutes in length. Stars: Jane Kaczmarek, Rebecca Williams, Nick Thurston, Carliegh Beverly, Peter Outerbridge and Kim Dickens.
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. Published by The Augustine Fellowship, Fellowship-Wide Services, Inc. Boston, 1986.
In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior by Patrick Carnes, David L. Delmonico, and Elizabeth Griffin, MA. Hazelden, 2007.
Facing the Shadows: Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery by Patrick Carnes. Gentle Path Press, 2nd ed., 2008.
Alexis: My True Story of Being Seduced by an Online Predator. By Alexis Singer. HCI Teens, 2010. Alexis became addicted to the trappings and groomings of a man 2 years younger than her father.
SEXUAL VIOLENCE PREVENTION
www.health.state.mn.us.svp Sexual Violence Prevention Program from the Minnesota Department of Health.
“Poverty and Sexual Violence: Building Prevention and Intervention Models” by the Pennsylvania Coalition Against Rape. http://www.ncdsv.org/images/Poverty%20and%20Sexual%20Violence.pdf
“Costs of Sexual Violence” by the MN Department of Health. http://www.health.state.mn.us/injury/topic/svp/sv/index.cfm#costs